Things with Him #2 are generally great–we’re still in the easy and fun puppy dog state and we have really great conversations. We also have a great ability to talk about something serious and, on a whim, transition to something goofy and fun. We’ve been spending a lot of time together and we’re even planning to go away together for a weekend in the next few weeks.
For the first time in basically ever, I will have Valentine!
But there is one big recurring issue–he talks about his ex wayyyyy too often. I believe they broke up 2-3 years ago and he assures me that he is over her, but I assure you that he is not 100% over her.
Ironically, her name is a synonym for happy, so let’s just call her Felicity. She was his first love and he blames himself for making “mistakes” and “causing” the break-up. He assures me that he brings these things up as a way to insure that he isn’t making the same mistakes with me. I keep assuring him that I am not Felicity, which is surprisingly accurate as I am not a felicitous person by nature. (Side note: what a terrible expectation to put on your child, btw. Can you imagine the burden it must be? If you’re miserable, people must say: How can you be sad with a name like Felicity!?!)
Anyways, shortly after breaking up with Him #2, she proceeded to date his best work friend. I totally understand how that would make the situation very much more painful and I feel for him. However, he holds all the anger for situation against the man-friend and thinks Felicity is completely blameless because she’s such a great person. There really is nothing better than your new dood raving about how his ex-girlfriend is a great person that he wishes was still his friend. And by nothing better, I basically mean anything would be better. At least I can (and do) tell him that I don’t like talking about the subject.