It’s Monday and Monday’s suck. On top of that, after a warm weekend, we’re back to seasonable temps in Boston, David Bowie passed away, and I can’t see Him #2 until the weekend. Suckier Monday.
On that note, here are some pick-me-ups:
Pride and Prejudice and Zombies comes out next month
I’m reading Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and it’s quite good. I’m sure I will post more about it when I finish the book.
Anyways, in describing the history of online dating, he refers to the brief life of video dating, which led me to the following YouTube video:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0bomkgXeDkE
You’re welcome!
Captain’s Log: After the first date, I had agreed to make some tentative plan for Friday night with the Nerd. I made this commitment when I still wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, but as the week progressed, I was starting to lose hope.
First he told me that he was cleaning his computer. I thought well I actually need to do that too–my local saved files on my work computer are a mess. Then he sent me a picture of computer parts and I realized he meant he was taking it apart and cleaning the inside…. He proceeded to tell me how nostalgic it was to look at when he added certain parts…. Several hours later I got a picture of it put back together…
At any rate, by the end of the week, I started to dread the tentative date and I lost hope that he had just been nervous. I figured I had to eat dinner on Friday anyways, so I kept the date.
First of all: Don’t get me wrong–I have a lot of nerdy friends and family. I consider myself to be slightly nerdy–I have been to the new Star Wars film, watched LORT many of times and read enjoy a good sci-fi novel. So I mean the nickname lovingly. I’m not opposed at all to nerds, but I’m not an uber-nerd. I don’t play video games, do cosplay, come up with fan theories, or have any memorabilia. Though I do have a crazy cat lady action figure…..
Anyways, I started talking to the Nerd because he seemed down to earth and was interested in ballroom dancing. I have fallen so in love with my dance fitness class at the gym that I will reschedule conference calls so that I don’t miss it. (I have an “appointment” at that time. Can do earlier or later?) So, I thought we might have enough in common.
It became clear to me early in the conversation that he was, in fact, quite nerdy. He apparently spends a lot of his free time building tiny models of the Star Trek ships. (I’m sure they are very specific versions of Star Trek ships, but that’s all I got). Interesting… everyone needs a hobby… He wasn’t a huge fan of the new Star Wars movie because it doesn’t follow the stories in the 50 Star Wars books that he has read. To that point in my life, I had no idea there were Star Wars books.
When we got around to discussing first dates, he said he wanted to do something active because he prefers to have fun instead of sitting and talking over a meal. I usually prefer a short first date (to make sure I can spend more than an hour with the guy before committing to spend more than an hour with said guy), but hey, that seemed refreshing and different, so sure! He suggested ice skating. I have never ice skated, so I was kinda terrified actually. But, I was confident that I could look just about this lovable while trying to skate:
Source: Imgur
UPDATE: I decided to ignore the request on Facebook and tell him why. I said I didn’t want to accept the request because I tend to post a lot, and while nothing is secret per se, I’d rather get to know him organically. I also said I hope I’m not offending him or hurting his feelings. He said he hesitated sending it because he agrees it’s too soon, but because he mentioned that he saw me on Facebook, he thought I’d be offended that he didn’t friend me.
See what happens when you assume things? You make an *ss out of you and ….I don’t remember the rest of the saying. Mature and honest communication works…. Who knew?
I mentioned earlier this week that there are two gents currently on the dance card. There is one that I’m leaning towards, but I’ve only had one date with the other one, who I have lovingly dubbed the Nerd. The first date with the Nerd will likely be chronicled in another post, but needless to say, it was a bit… draining due to the extremely long and rambling stories accompanied by pictures.
That said… He seems like a really nice guy and I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt that he was just nervous and can’t handle beer. He admitted that he tends to talk too much. So I want to give him another chance, but I don’t have super high hopes.
Anyways, here is the E-mergency. It started with the following text from the Nerd:
Hey Facebook asked me today if I know you 🙂 I hadn’t even searched for you yet, now I know your last name 😉
Ugh. FACEBOOK YOU HAVE BETRAYED ME! I tried to tiptoe around the topic.