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Dating Q&A

My favorite dating website uses a series of questions in order to determine the projected compatibility that you may have with your matches.  The majority of the questions are what you’d expect (think: Do you want to live with someone before getting married?  Do you want kids?  Do you have pets?  Do you want to wait to have sex until after marriage? Etc.), but then there are the ones that fall into the following categories:

  • Strange;
  • Oddly specific situational questions;
  • Offensive;
  • Questions that make you ponder whether humanity deserves to continue; and
  • Questions, my personal answers to which, make you ponder whether I belong in polite society.

We’ll handle each in turn, but let’s pause for a brief explanation.

First, you answer questions and rank how important they are to you.  You can also select what you’d prefer the other person to say.  This may seem odd, but think of this question:  “Do you prefer to date someone taller than you?”  I would answer “Yes” as my answer, but I’d prefer that my date would answer “No” so that we’d match in our height preferences.   The questions are all multiple choice so you have to select from the answers provided, which are at times pretty absurd.  However, your answers are then public for the users of the site and you can provide a narrative explanation of your answer if you so choose.

Personally, I love the questions.  I enjoy seeing people’s explanations and it can be a good screening tool (oh you would give up your right to vote before your right to bear arms…. Don’t think we’d get along so well).  I also like talking about the crazy questions as an ice breaker on the first date.

The questions themselves are submitted by users.  I went on a date with a guy who said he went on a date with a girl who said (so the information has to be accurate, obvi) she was chosen as a question moderator so she would be part of a pool of users who read and approve the questions.  Keep that in mind as we explore….

STRANGE QUESTIONS

Do dinosaurs exist?

While I recognize that there are people who wrongfully believe that people and dinosaurs coexisted (and they vacation here), are there people who believe that dinosaurs have NEVER existed??  I just googled it and, yes, yes there are.  I have a new favorite website.

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Do trees have souls?

 

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Playing Games

So I’m minding my own business yesterday when I get the notification that someone has messaged me on the dating website.  I could use a break from reviewing some lengthy agreements, so I take a look:

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Sigh.  I roll my eyes.  I complain to Dawn.  I answer “no” in my head and I’m about to proceed with my life.  But then I got an idea!  An awful idea!  30WITHCATS GOT A WONDERFUL AWFUL IDEA!  “I know just what to do to!”  30withcats told Dawn!

Source: My New Plaid Pants

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Date Two: The Final Frontier

Captain’s Log:   After the first date, I had agreed to make some tentative plan for Friday night with the Nerd.   I made this commitment when I still wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, but as the week progressed, I was starting to lose hope.

First he told me that he was cleaning his computer.  I thought well I actually need to do that too–my local saved files on my work computer are a mess.  Then he sent me a picture of computer parts and I realized he meant he was taking it apart and cleaning the inside….  He proceeded to tell me how nostalgic it was to look at when he added certain parts…. Several hours later I got a picture of it put back together…

At any rate, by the end of the week, I started to dread the tentative date and I lost hope that he had just been nervous.  I figured I had to eat dinner on Friday anyways, so I kept the date.

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The Nerd: Date One

First of all:  Don’t get me wrong–I have a lot of nerdy friends and family.  I consider myself to be slightly nerdy–I have been to the new Star Wars film, watched LORT many of times and read enjoy a good sci-fi novel. So I mean the nickname lovingly. I’m not opposed at all to nerds, but I’m not an uber-nerd.  I don’t play video games, do cosplay, come up with fan theories, or have any memorabilia.  Though I do have a crazy cat lady action figure…..

Anyways, I started talking to the Nerd because he seemed down to earth and was interested in ballroom dancing.  I have fallen so in love with my dance fitness class at the gym that I will reschedule conference calls so that I don’t miss it.  (I have an “appointment” at that time.  Can do earlier or later?)  So, I thought we might have enough in common.

It became clear to me early in the conversation that he was, in fact, quite nerdy.  He apparently spends a lot of his free time building tiny models of the Star Trek ships. (I’m sure they are very specific versions of Star Trek ships, but that’s all I got).  Interesting… everyone needs a hobby…  He wasn’t a huge fan of the new Star Wars movie because it doesn’t follow the stories in the 50 Star Wars books that he has read.  To that point in my life, I had no idea there were Star Wars books.

When we got around to discussing first dates, he said he wanted to do something active because he prefers to have fun instead of sitting and talking over a meal.   I usually prefer a short first date (to make sure I can spend more than an hour with the guy before committing to spend more than an hour with said guy), but hey,  that seemed refreshing and different, so sure!    He suggested ice skating.  I have never ice skated, so I was kinda terrified actually.   But, I was confident that I could look just about this lovable while trying to skate:

Source: Imgur

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Searching for Man TBD: Part One

We all have different goals in life.  Many of us have several and several of mine come to mind: I would like to find a way to have a career that I love that allows a bit more balance in life, I’d like to re-learn how to play the piano, and I’d like to find “Man TBD.”  Man TBD is your vacation buddy, the guy that is your plus-one, the guy you snuggle with when you’re cold, the guy that has his own life and goals and wants you as a true partner, the guy that reminds you that even though the partner yelled at you unfairly, he’s an ass and you’re a good attorney!  I could go on, but I’m beginning to swoon and I digress.

Every once in a blue moon, I get butterflies in my stomach that I might have found Man TBD!  This happened to me recently and it took me by surprise to be honest.  I fell fast and hard for this funny, warm, somewhat shy, and attractive man who messaged me online.   He seemed so into me and I reciprocated.  I was legitimately excited to get his texts.  My friends knew he was texting me because I got this big grin on my face.  It had actually been a long time since I had taken dating seriously and I even longer since I’d been excited.  [More on reasons why in future posts, I’m sure.]  For the purposes of this blog, let’s call him: Him #1.

I met Him #1 online (perhaps that’s obvious) and I liked him off the bat. He was very communicative over text and I was having a good time texting him.   Due to the timing of when he initiated contact, we texted for a week before our first date.  It was a fun week!  He seemed like a genuinely nice guy!  He had interests that were new to me, but he was so passionate about them and I found it very intriguing!  I like to learn new things and I liked how he had a full-filling life.  I thought we were looking for the same thing.

On our first date, I had somewhat limited expectations that he would be a real person, but I was excited–you can always fill in the blanks with assumptions before you meet someone.  To my surprise, he was real and much cuter than his pictures online!  We talked for a few hours over lunch.  Towards the end, all I wanted to do was kiss him.  He took me home and we had an epic first kiss at my doorstep.  We’re talking, light hair pull, pushing me against the side of the house, romance novel epic.  I don’t know how I resisted inviting him up–actually my house was a mess and I hadn’t shaved my legs.  That’s how.   He texted immediately when he got home to tell me that he had had a great time–we had set up a date for Friday before he left my house and we were both excitedly talking about it.

It seemed to go well from there, until it didn’t.

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